There’s a gap between who we think we are and how people actually experience us. And that gap is where most of our relational problems live. Ryan asks the question he uses in every coaching session and keynote: what’s it like to be on the other side of you? Not what your résumé says. Not what your bio reads. But the actual lived experience of working for you, living with you, being led by you.

In this episode, Ryan gets specific. What’s it like to be on the other side of your decisions? Your tone? Your urgency? Your stress? Would you want to work for you? Would you want to be married to you? Would you want your kids to grow up in a home led by someone who shows up the way you show up? You can’t improve what you’re not aware of. And the answer to that question might be the most valuable feedback you’ve ever received.