Sign up for my upcoming free online workshop: Grit Starts at Home:https://www.efratamira.com/grittykids👉 Join The Parenting Wisdom Community FB group for weekly Parenting Q&A:https://www.facebook.com/share/g/17mDYDmSNa/We live in a parenting culture that puts feelings on a pedestal. Validate every emotion. Name it. Sit with it. Never dismiss it.But what if that approach — as well-intentioned as it is — is actually producing kids who are more anxious, more self-focused, and increasingly disconnected from their purpose?In this episode I'm tackling one of the most sacred cows of modern parenting: the idea that we should always trust our feelings and center our children's emotional experience above everything else. I'll show you what the research says, what ancient Jewish wisdom understood long before modern therapy, and one practical shift you can make today.In This Episode You'll LearnWhy two landmark books — The Coddling of the American Mind and Bad Therapy — are sounding the alarm about the way we talk to kids about feelingsThe difference between wanted and unwanted emotions — and why this distinction changes everything about how you respond to your childWhat Jewish psychology teaches about the soul, emotions, and the mind's role in leading themWhy constantly turning your child's gaze inward may be robbing them of their ability to connect with others and live with purposeThe one question to replace "how does that make you feel?" — and why it worksThis Week's ChallengeThe next time your child comes to you flooded with a big emotion, instead of asking "how does that make you feel?" — try asking:"What do you want to do about it?"That single shift moves them from the inside out. Try it and tell me what happens in the comments.Books Mentioned📖 The Coddling of the American Mind — Greg Lukianoff & Jonathan Haidt📖 Bad Therapy — Abigail ShrierEpisodes:00:00 The Question That Changes Everything00:39 The Lie We've Been Told About Feelings01:07 The Research About Centering Feelings02:49 What Jewish Psychology Says About Emotions04:20 Unwanted vs. Wanted Emotions: The Core Distinction06:46 Purpose Beyond Emotions07:46 Teaching Children to Differentiate Emotions08:11 The One Question That Shifts Everything (Practical challenge)08:44 What to Remember From This Episode (Takeaway)👉 Join my newsletter to receive weekly parenting insights and updates here: https://www.efratamira.com/newsletter👉 The Parenting Wisdom Website: https://www.efratamira.com/