Surviving Family Gatherings Without Becoming the Family Therapist: Emotional Boundaries for the Holidays

Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy explore how therapists can navigate family gatherings without slipping into the role of “family therapist.” They discuss emotional boundaries, guilt, codependency, and the importance of authenticity during the holiday season. Learn how to recognize old family patterns, manage emotional triggers, and show up as a whole human (not just a clinician) when family dynamics get complicated.

Key Takeaways for Therapists:

• Therapists often revert to caretaker or mediator roles during family gatherings.

• Emotional boundaries matter as much as physical ones: protect your energy.

• “JADE” doesn’t go to Thanksgiving: Don’t Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain.

• It’s okay to have emotions and step away from unproductive conversations.

• Clarify your role (family member, not therapist) and engage authentically.

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Creative Credits:
Voice Over by DW McCann
Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano