Why You Still Want Them (The Brutal Truth About Trauma Bonding)

January 1
1h 16m

Episode Description

What does it take to finally walk away after YEARS of manipulation and abus3? In this powerful episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) sits down with Louella to discuss her harrowing and inspiring journey of surviving a long-term narcissistic relationship.

Louella shares the raw truth about the "slow erode" of self-esteem, the confusion of the trauma bond, and the specific moment she realized that the person she loved was never going to change. This isn't just a story of survival; it’s a roadmap for anyone currently feeling trapped in a toxic cycle.

In this interview, we dive into:

  • The Long Game: How narcissistic manipulation evolves over the span of many years.

  • The Turning Point: The specific "red flag" that finally broke the spell for Louella.

  • Generational Trauma: How our pasts can sometimes lead us into the arms of a narcissist.

  • Life After the Exit: The reality of healing, helping, and finding peace after the discard.

As a self-aware narcissist, Lee provides feedback on the tactics used against Louella, offering a unique "inside look" at why her ex acted the way he did—and why her decision to leave was the ultimate power move.


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