In this greatest hits episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I’m joined by my friend and colleague Karen C.L. Anderson for a powerful conversation about the role of healthy anger—and how to relate to it in a way that creates healing instead of harm.

Karen is a master-certified life coach and author who helps smart, creative women transform their relationships with their mothers—into catalysts for growth. She’s the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, one of my favorite books to recommend to clients when mom stuff comes up, and You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame (Living Free from Narcissistic Mothers and Fathers) which I also highly recommend. 

Her work has also been featured in the New York Times as an expert on boundaries, and I’m so excited to share her wisdom with you.

Together, we talk about the difference between immature and mature anger, how to use anger as a guide instead of something to fear, and why giving yourself permission to feel it can lead to deeper self-trust and healthier boundaries. 

If anger has ever felt confusing, overwhelming, or like something you had to avoid in order to be “good,” this episode is for you.

✨ Episode at a Glance

• The difference between immature and mature anger

• What anger is often signaling—and why it matters

• The Anger Scale and how to use it for self-awareness

• The concept of the Microscopic Truth and how it helps in conflict

• How to process and move through anger without fear or shame

• The link between anger and healthy boundary-setting

• A powerful coaching moment from Karen that shows anger in action