·S1 E103

Reclaiming Intimacy: Xanet Pailet's Journey from Sexless Marriage to Passionate Coach

January 30

54 mins

Episode Description

Reclaiming Intimacy: Xanet Pailet's Journey from Sexless Marriage to Passionate Coach

In this episode, Xanet Pailet, a nationally recognized sex and intimacy coach, shares her transformative journey from a 26-year sexless marriage and a successful career as a healthcare executive to becoming a somatic sexologist and author. Pailet discusses her immersive healing retreats, her approach to trauma-informed body-based sexuality, and the importance of emotional and physical intimacy. She offers practical insights into how couples can reconnect and rekindle their passion, emphasizing the roles of empathy, safe communication, and somatic experiences. As she gears up for the release of her new book, 'The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit,' Pailet provides valuable advice for those seeking to improve their intimate lives.

00:00 Introduction to Xanet Pailet

01:04 Personal Journey and Formative Years

02:00 Challenges in a Sexless Marriage

05:41 Awakening and Self-Discovery

09:37 Transition to a New Career

13:05 The Importance of Pleasure and Intimacy

15:12 Modern Challenges to Intimacy

24:32 Tools for Improving Intimacy

27:46 Expectations vs. Reality of Couples Retreats

28:57 Tools for Emotional Safety and Empathy

30:19 Physical Aspects of Intimacy

31:18 Navigating Empty Nest Syndrome