In this episode, I’m diving into something that comes up constantly for ambitious, multi-passionate people, especially ADHDers: what do you do when your goals feel like they’re competing with each other?

I talk through my own experience of postponing solo travel plans because of financial instability and the guilt spiral that followed. Was I being responsible or was I betraying myself? That question opened up a much bigger conversation about how we make decisions, what we label as “conflicting priorities,” and how often we frame choices in a way that automatically makes us lose.

We explore how zooming out can completely change the decision. Instead of seeing goals as opposing forces, I invite you to look at them as interconnected parts of a larger mission. Financial stability, travel, career growth, rest, parenting, and self-care aren’t separate identities competing for attention. They’re all expressions of what you value.

I also talk about self-trust. Not the motivational quote version, but the real kind that’s built through honesty, regular check-ins, and the ability to rebuild trust with yourself when plans change. Because the real fear usually isn’t choosing one goal over another. It’s worrying you won’t come back to the one you paused.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between two “right” choices or afraid that picking one path means abandoning another forever, this episode is for you.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• Why goals often feel competitive when they’re actually connected

• The difference between personal goals and socially imposed expectations

• How zooming out helps you make decisions without self-betrayal

• How to tell when a choice is a pause versus a quit

• Using the “five whys” to uncover your real motivation

• How to rebuild self-trust after delays, detours, or setbacks

Key Takeaways:

• Competing goals are often part of the same bigger mission

• Not every season allows for everything, and that’s not a failure

• Clarifying why you want something matters more than the timeline

• Self-care supports responsibility, it doesn’t undermine it

• Choosing one priority doesn’t mean abandoning the others

• The real decision is often whether you trust yourself to come back

If you’re feeling torn between goals right now, I want you to know this: you’re not doing it wrong. You’re navigating complexity. And that requires more honesty and self-trust than hustle culture ever prepared us for.

You’re allowed to choose what fits this season while still honoring the bigger vision for your life. And you’re allowed to change your mind, recalibrate, and rebuild trust with yourself along the way.

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