Some women become so practiced at doubting themselves that fear eventually starts sounding responsible.

Smile bigger.
Need less.
Stay agreeable.
Stay exhausted.

And after enough years of disconnecting from your own instincts, it gets harder and harder to tell the difference between discernment… and survival mode wearing church clothes.

In this episode of The Feral Era for Women Over 40, Kirsten Bombdiggity sits down with Rev. Samantha Hasty for a conversation about spiritual scar tissue, religious conditioning, self-trust, over-functioning, and the quiet grief of realizing how often women were rewarded for abandoning themselves.

This conversation explores what happens when healing stops being about becoming “better” and starts becoming about finally believing your own nervous system again.

FERAL LITTLE SENTENCES

“Fear eventually starts introducing itself as discernment.”

“Some women are so good at functioning that nobody realizes they’re disappearing.”

“Self-abandonment gets mistaken for holiness all the time.”

“Nothing looks technically wrong from the outside… but your body knows.”

“Healing sometimes looks less like becoming nicer and more like becoming harder to override.”

IN THIS EPISODE

• Spiritual scar tissue women carry without realizing it
• The difference between discernment and conditioned fear
• Why exhausted women often become emotional shape-shifters
• The moment functioning stops feeling like living
• Religious systems that accidentally teach women to distrust themselves
• Why some women feel guilty the second they stop over-giving
• What healing feels like inside the body before the brain catches up
• The invisible exhaustion of constantly second-guessing your own instincts

ABOUT REV. SAMANTHA HASTY, MDIV

Rev. Samantha Hasty is a pastor, coach, and community leader dedicated to helping LGBTQ+ people heal from religious abuse and reclaim a faith that brings freedom, connection, and joy. Through her work with Q Christian Fellowship and Pitch in Theology, she creates safer, trauma-informed spaces for spiritual exploration, healing, and belonging.

Samantha leads community groups, workshops, retreats, and mentorship experiences focused on spiritual trauma recovery, LGBTQ+ spirituality, and authentic faith development. Known for her warm pastoral presence and accessible teaching style, she helps individuals navigate deconstruction, rebuild trust in themselves, and cultivate meaningful spiritual practices.

Samantha lives in Indianapolis with her family.

Instagram: @sjhasty88

ABOUT THE SHOW

The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives.

Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried.

Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, funny, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours.

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