What if the problem isn’t sexual desire — but the shame surrounding it?

In this episode I’m joined by psychosexual and relationship therapist Silva Neves to explore one of the most misunderstood topics in modern sexuality: compulsive sexual behaviour.

Rather than framing sexual compulsivity as “sex addiction,” Silva’s work examines how sexuality can become intertwined with emotional regulation, identity, shame, and relational needs.

We explore:

• Why many sexologists reject the “sex addiction” narrative.
• How shame sustains compulsive sexual cycles.
• The difference between high desire and genuine compulsivity.
• Trauma, EMDR therapy, and erotic safety.
• What sexual integration actually looks like in therapy.

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Stay perverted,

Emma

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