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Episode summary:
In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Lisa Gray shares practical strategies for maintaining healthy relationships when chronic illness enters the picture—whether you're navigating high-conflict dynamics or learning to communicate through the unique challenges of chronic pain and fatigue.
In this conversation, we cover:
● Why externalizing chronic illness as a "third partner" helps couples team up against the problem instead of blaming each other—even when both partners are grieving in different directions
● How to have scheduled, calm conversations using the speaker-listener framework so you actually understand each other before jumping to problem-solving
● Why intimacy can become even more intimate when you scale back to sensual touch and connection—and how to navigate those conversations without guilt or pressure
● The importance of the well partner taking care of themselves (and why it's the ill partner's job to encourage that), plus creative solutions for managing household responsibilities as a team
Lisa reminds us that healthy conflict isn't just about reducing fights—it's also about being brave enough to have the hard conversations chronic illness demands. Her work focuses on teaching couples to stay connected, communicate with empathy, and renegotiate their relationship over and over as illness evolves—because this is chronic, and the adjustments never really end.
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Disclaimer: Everything we talk about here is just meant to be general education and information. It's not intended as personal mental health or medical advice. If you have any questions related to your unique circumstances, please contact a licensed therapist or medical professional in your state of residence.