Chalene Johnson tackles the question most people are afraid to ask: what if the common denominator in every failed relationship is you?

She walks through seven signs that you might be the one creating the pattern, from blaming exes instead of owning your part, to childhood attachment wounds resurfacing in adult relationships, to being quick to judge and slow to say sorry. Chalene explains why arrogance can quietly protect you from ever seeing your own role in the breakup or blowup, and why the healthiest relationship you can build is the one with yourself.

Topics discussed: toxic relationship patterns, attachment style, arrogance in relationships, empathy, self-sabotage, therapy, magnesium and brain function

 

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🚨Questions Chalene Wants Your Thoughts on:

• Do you tend to explain what happened in a breakup without mentioning your own part in it?
• Have old traumas ever shown up in how you handle a friendship or relationship today?
• Is it hard for you to be the one who says sorry first?

 

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Chapters
00:00:00 — Intro: Are you the problem in your relationships?
00:01:36 — Sign #1: A repeating pattern of relationship/friendship problems
00:02:38 — Sponsor: OneSkin body lotion
00:03:31 — Sign #2: Blaming others & an inability to see your own faults
00:05:30 — Sign #3: Relationships that end in dramatic blowups
00:07:10 — Sign #4: Rigid beliefs about people & childhood attachment issues
00:10:02 — Sponsor: Midi Health (women's hormone care)
00:12:38 — Sign #5: Repeating patterns you chalk up to "bad luck"
00:14:32 — Sign #6: Quick to judge people before giving them a chance
00:15:24 — Sign #7: Making everything a big deal & struggling to apologize
00:17:54 — Closing: Your relationship with yourself & the case for therapy