·S9 E277

Football as Medicine: Why the Game Heals More Than We Think

February 9

16 mins

Episode Description

In this special solo episode, I reflect on the surprising, emotional power of football—not just as entertainment, but as a vehicle for emotional expression, tribal connection, and generational bonding. Using the recent Buffalo Bills playoff loss as a launch point, I explore why sports hurt when we lose, why they matter when we win, and how something so seemingly trivial can touch the deepest parts of our humanity.

I talk about the ritual of watching games at a Bills Backers bar, the magic of celebrating with strangers, and the sacred phone calls I share with my dad every week during the season. We also touch on the contrast between the fan and the player—the joy for us, the sacrifice for them—and why honoring both truths is part of growing up. If you’ve ever wondered why this “game” hits you so hard, this one’s for you.

Episode Highlights

[00:00] – Why losing a football game hurts more than we admit

[01:15] – Our primal need for battle, stakes, and tribal expression

[02:43] – Ancient arenas vs. modern stadiums: how ritual never left

[04:10] – Community medicine: bars, strangers, and bonding over a team

[05:09] – Celebrating with strangers becomes something sacred

[06:30] – The real therapy: weekly phone calls with my dad after every game

[07:32] – Honoring the grief of knowing those calls won’t last forever

[08:45] – Sports as socially accepted emotional expression

[09:32] – Holding two truths: joy for the fan, risk for the player

[10:45] – Maybe it’s not just a game, maybe it’s one of the few places we let ourselves feel it all

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