Episode Description
What if the thing shaping almost every decision you make is happening quietly — without you realizing it?
John breaks down a powerful idea from psychologist and Nobel Prize winner Daniel Kahneman: there are two selves at play — the experiencing self (who lives life moment-to-moment) and the remembering self (who tells the story and makes most decisions).
When those two don’t agree, you can end up living a life that looks “right” on paper… but still feels empty inside.
MENTIONED / LINKS (Daniel Kahneman – Nobel Prize)
Nobel Prize profile (2002, Economic Sciences): https://www.nobelprize.org/prizes/economic-sciences/2002/kahneman/facts/
Daniel Kahneman (Wikipedia): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daniel_Kahneman
Thinking, Fast and Slow (book): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thinking,_Fast_and_Slow
PRACTICAL TAKEAWAYS (2-QUESTION FILTER)
Before a major decision (work, love, moves, commitments), ask:
- “How does this feel in my body right now?”
- “When you look back on this in 5 years, will I be glad I did it?”
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