At 52, John realizes how often we trade our truth for “membership” - relationships, status, the idea of success - and quietly disappear. From a house fire to shaving his head, he reframes love, loss, and identity, arguing that real growth demands new lenses, not old fantasies.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why exchanging your truth for acceptance makes you lukewarm
• “Corrective love” vs replaying the past’s highlight reel
• How healthy love both confronts and delights
• Impermanence as a doorway to gratitude (everything can vanish)
• Reinvention at any age: new lenses → new life

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