In this episode, John answers listener questions about breakups, emotional cheating, boredom in relationships, scarcity mindset, defensiveness, and what it really means to compromise without abandoning yourself.

Why is it harder to let go when things ended “well”? Is emotional cheating still cheating? When do needs become “demands”? And how much space is too much space for an avoidant partner?

This episode is about self-respect, emotional safety, and learning how to stay connected without losing yourself.

We explore:

• Running into an ex and how to handle it
• Letting go after a breakup (especially when it ends abruptly)
• Scarcity vs. abundance in dating
• Emotional cheating and betrayal
• Compromise vs. self-abandonment
• Defensiveness and where it comes from
• Boredom in relationships
• Giving avoidant partners space
• Conflict over household structure
  

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking for too much — or settling for too little — this one’s for you.

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