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Navigating the Fawning Response

December 16

53 mins

Episode Description

Summary

In this conversation, Ali Damron and Kelly Kessler explore the concept of self-respect and the fawning response, discussing how it manifests in relationships and personal dynamics.

They delve into the importance of understanding the nervous system, the impact of grief on personal growth, and the necessity of setting boundaries.

The discussion also touches on the pressures of holiday expectations, the challenge of asking for help, and the journey towards internal validation. Ultimately, they emphasize the importance of choosing oneself and cultivating a supportive community.

Takeaways

Self-respect is crucial for personal growth.
Fawning is a response to external pressures and expectations.
Understanding the nervous system is key to healing.
Self-abandonment can lead to unhealthy relationships.
Grief can catalyze significant personal change.
Choosing yourself often means setting boundaries.
The holiday season can amplify feelings of stress and obligation.
Asking for help is a vital skill to develop.
Recognizing patterns of behavior is essential for change.
Internal validation is more important than external approval.

Sound bites

"I was completely abandoning myself."
"You are allowed to prioritize your peace."
"Your energy is worth something."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Self-Respect and Fawning Response
02:56 Understanding Self-Abandonment and Fawning Patterns
05:58 The Impact of Relationships on Self-Identity
09:01 Navigating Grief and Personal Transformation
12:11 The Role of Community and Support in Healing
15:00 Choosing Yourself: The Journey of Self-Love
17:45 The Pressure of Holiday Expectations and Self-Care
20:54 Asking for Help: Building the Muscle of Vulnerability
27:03 Navigating the Challenge of Receiving Help
28:49 The Illusion of External Validation
29:44 The Pursuit of Fulfillment
31:00 Understanding Personal Desires
32:34 Setting Boundaries in Relationships
35:38 Creating Safety Within Yourself
37:42 Recognizing Fawning Behavior
39:50 The Energy Behind Actions
41:16 Choosing Yourself and Your Peace
43:39 Filtering Relationships
46:38 The Ongoing Journey of Self-Discovery