In this episode, I'm joined by comedian, writer, and viral content creator Matt Hyams, whose hilariously honest videos about life with a perimenopausal wife have racked up millions of views. What started as a way to process his own reality quickly became a platform that has resonated with husbands and wives everywhere.

Matt opens up about the moment he realized his marriage wasn't falling apart — it was hormones. He shares how IVF gave him a surprising frame of reference for perimenopause rage, why he walks a delicate line between validating his wife and not setting a precedent he'll regret, and what it's actually like to work from home with the woman who is also your boss.

We talk about role reversals, the mental load, hormone therapy, keeping sex alive in a long-term relationship, and the surprising ways humor can — and can't — save you in the bedroom. Matt also shares the practical advice he now gives other men who message him completely lost. Spoiler: it starts with boiling eggs before you're asked.

This is the conversation every couple navigating perimenopause together needs to hear.

In this episode:

00:00 The Smell Test: A Perimenopause Comedy Intro

01:30 Meet Matt Hyams: The Husband Who Went Viral

02:50 How's the Marriage Actually Holding Up?

05:00 IVF, Rage, and That Familiar Feeling

06:45 Do Men Even Talk to Each Other About This?

08:15 How the Word Perimenopause Entered His House

10:15 The Holiday Blowup That Changed Everything

13:15 She Said She Was Done — Then Forgot She Said It

15:45 Hormone Therapy: She's on the Patch

17:30 How Men vs. Women React to His Content

18:45 Role Reversal: She's the Breadwinner

21:45 Working with Your Wife and Disappointing Her Twice

23:30 Did Going Viral Actually Make Things Better?

25:00 Humor in the Bedroom: Where It Helps and Where It Doesn't

27:15 Keeping It Spicy After 13 Years

28:45 The Advice Every Man Needs When Perimenopause Hits

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About The Guest:

Matt is a comedian, comedy writer, and husband to a perimenopausal wife.He's the winner of Stage32's 4th Annual TV Comedy ScreenwritingCompetition; he's performed in stand up festivals around the country; and his satire writing has appeared in McSweeney's (and some sites you've never heard of).

Connect with Matt Hyam:

Website: https://www.matthyams.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthyams

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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