5 Ways to Support Your Partner During Menopause This Valentine’s Day

February 13
6 mins

Episode Description

If you love her but feel like you are one wrong sentence away from a blow up, this episode is for you.

In this Valentine’s Day special, I speak directly to men who want to support their partner through menopause without making things worse. Mood swings. Withdrawal. Irritability. Low libido. Exhaustion. These are not signs your relationship is failing. They are signs her hormones and nervous system are under pressure.

I break down five practical tips that help you show up steady, calm, and supportive. You will learn how to regulate instead of fix, how to stop taking it personally, how to bring back touch without pressure, how to ask better questions, and how to reframe Valentine’s Day around relief instead of performance.

I also share thoughtful gift ideas that say “I see you” without implying sex is expected. Cooling tools. Nervous system support. Body safe lubricants. Comfort focused intimacy.

Menopause does not ruin relationships. Misunderstanding does. When you show up informed and grounded, she feels safe. And safety is the foundation of desire.

In this episode:

00:00 One Wrong Sentence Away From a Blow Up

00:26 Show Intro and What This Episode Covers

00:55 Substack Community Announcement

01:28 What Menopause Is Really Doing Behind the Scenes

02:05 Tip 1 Stop Fixing and Start Regulating

02:50 Cooling Tools and Smart Valentine’s Gift Ideas

03:20 Tip 2 Don’t Take It Personally

04:05 FirmTech Sponsor Message

04:45 Tip 3 Bring Back Touch Without Pressure

05:32 Tip 4 Ask Better Questions

06:05 Lubricants and Comfort Focused Intimacy

06:20 Tip 5 Make Valentine’s Day About Relief

06:45 Men and Menopause Course and Closing

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.


This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.


Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast



DISCLAIMER: This episode may include discussion of products, including affiliate links. That means I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. All opinions are my own. Please consult your healthcare provider before using any product discussed, especially if you have medical concerns, pain, or are using prescription medications.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.


Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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