Episode Description
Making decisions after a major life transition can feel completely different than it used to.
Suddenly, every choice feels bigger. You second-guess yourself, ask everyone else what they think, and sometimes avoid making a decision altogether because you're afraid of getting it wrong.
In this episode of Start Your Comeback, Toni talks about why rebuilding confidence requires Decision Training—learning to make small decisions first, seek wise counsel without giving away your authority, and trust yourself to handle the outcome.
In this episode:
- Why not making a decision is still a decision
- Toni's “Board of Directors” and the importance of wise counsel
- The difference between asking for perspective and asking someone else to decide for you
- Why small decisions help rebuild confidence
- How to recognize when uncertainty is making you rush
- Why your emotional capacity matters when making bigger choices
- How thinking through the worst-case scenario can actually reduce fear
- Why a disappointing outcome does not automatically mean you made a bad decision
The Decision Training Framework
The Urgency Check:
Does this decision actually need to be made today, or am I rushing it just to escape the discomfort of uncertainty?
The Capacity Gauge:
On a scale of 1 to 10, how much emotional bandwidth do I have right now? If it is below a 5, can I give myself permission to push this decision to next week?
The Safety Net:
What is the worst-case scenario if this decision doesn’t go the way I hope, and do I have the resilience, support, and resources to handle it?
Remember:
You are not trying to become someone who never makes the wrong decision.
You are becoming someone who trusts herself to make the wisest decision she can, and knows she can handle what comes next.
Read this week's Limbo Letters on Substack, and paid subscribers can grab Friday's Decision Training Game Plan Companion to work through one real decision using the framework from today's episode.
If you're facing a bigger transition and need help sorting through the noise, Toni also offers one-on-one coaching.
You don't need the whole plan. You need the next play.
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