What happens when someone who spent years behind the bar starts questioning alcohol for herself?

In this episode of the ShameOver: Drink Less Podcast, I sit down with Jessica Tanir, an integration guide, health coach, and former bartender, to talk about the intense drinking culture inside the hospitality industry and how it shaped her relationship with alcohol.

Jessica shares what it was like working in high-profile restaurants and nightlife spaces in New York City and Miami, where drinking after shifts, blacking out, and overindulging were completely normalized. She opens up about the “double life” she was living—building a wellness-focused life on one hand while still surrounded by alcohol culture on the other.

We also talk about the moment that made her realize something had to change, how she started with a short break from alcohol, and why taking things in small steps can be so much more effective than going all-in with pressure and perfection.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your drinking habits have just been normalized by your environment, this conversation is going to hit.

In this episode, we cover:

• Jessica’s background as a bartender in NYC and Miami
• The reality of drinking culture in hospitality and nightlife
• Why blackout drinking can start to feel “normal”
• The connection between environment and overdrinking
• Her wake-up call moment with alcohol
• Why a short break can be more powerful than an all-or-nothing mindset
• How sober curiosity often starts quietly

Learn more about Jessica Tanir:

The Reconnection Retreat - https://www.jessicatanir.com/retreat

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jessicatanir?igsh=MTlvYW00c3VqZ2RxMQ==

Work With Me

If you’re ready to:

• Drink less without giving it up entirely
• Break the all-or-nothing cycle
• Regulate your nervous system
• Build confidence without alcohol

Come join me inside ShameOver. Go to shameover.me to get started today.

***Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and reflects personal opinions and lived experience. It is not medical, mental health, or addiction treatment advice and should not be used to diagnose or treat any condition. Always consult with a qualified healthcare or mental health professional about your specific situation before making changes to your drinking, medications, or treatment.***