Let's talk about what actually happens when desire disappears in a long term relationship… because most people assume their libido is just gone, or something is broken in their relationship, when the truth is usually something completely different. In this episode I'm breaking down how desire actually works, why spontaneous desire is mostly a myth for couples past the honeymoon phase, and the one simple 20 minute practice you can try this week to start feeling connected again without forcing anything. I'm also getting into the difference between duty sex and responsive desire, because those are not the same thing and confusing them is making a lot of people miserable. If you've ever thought something is wrong with you because you don't want sex the way you used to, this episode is for you.

Spoiler: nothing is wrong with you. Your desire just works differently now.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro

01:06 The Honeymoon Phase & Why It Naturally Fades

02:09 Desire Isn't Gone — It's Changed Shape

03:35 Who This Episode Is For (And Who It's Not For)

04:47 Duty Sex vs. Responsive Desire

06:07 Reading Your Body's Real "Yes"

06:49 How Couples Quietly Drift Into "Roommates"

07:46 What the Research Says About Sex & Satisfaction

10:32 Desire Isn't a Light Switch (The Date Night Example)

12:12 Why Responsive Desire Isn't "Lesser" Desire

12:53 What's Actually Blocking Your Desire

15:15 The 20-Minute No-Sex Connection Challenge

16:16 The Makeout Challenge & Closing Thoughts

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