In this powerful and honest conversation, Dr Olivia Kessel is joined by parenting coach Alison Solomon to explore one uncomfortable truth: what if the biggest shift in our child’s behaviour has nothing to do with them and everything to do with us?

Alison shares the moment she calls the “arrow through the heart,” when she realised her child was not the problem, her reaction was. From that moment, everything changed.

In this episode, we explore:

• What actually happens in the brain when a child is dysregulated
 • Why adding logic to an emotional brain makes things worse
 • The power of silence and when to stop talking
 • How to create emotional safety at home
 • Why oppositional traits may be future strengths
 • The “golden apology” and how modelling accountability builds resilience

This is not about blame. It is about empowerment.

Because when we regulate first, everything else begins to shift.

If you have ever found yourself talking more and getting nowhere, this episode will land.

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