A kinky, submissive woman's last relationship went down in flames when her dom insisted on a power exchange, all-the-damn-time lifestyle. She is raising kids and caring for her sick father. She doesn't have time for this kind of commitment. How can she set reasonable boundaries in the future?

A married man despairs that he'll never kiss his wife again. Smooching is central to his experience of sexual pleasure, and the wife is repulsed by it. Sounds grim.

Speaking of kissing, on the Magnum, it's a "What You Got?" with Dr. Matilda Brindle. The evolutionary biologist recently published a paper looking at whether early primates or even Neanderthals kissed. They also talk about kink in the animal kingdom, which leads to the story of one very freaky monkey. Do not miss this. Pay attention.

And, a woman humble-braggingly wonders if OTHER women come 60-70 times per session she like does.

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to multiple orgasms, trans rights to asexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since Neanderthals were kissing up on peeps.