Success is a judgement you make every minute of every day, against a standard that either you or somebody else has decided. 

And it's that set standard, that rule book that people don't look at. So whenever you catch yourself saying you want to be successful, the useful move is to unfreeze success and consider:

"Successful according to who?"  and  “What do I think is successful?” 

- Melissa Sheffield

Where did your definition of success actually come from? 

In this first episode of Safe to Succeed, Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner Melissa Sheffield traces her own definition of success back to when she was eleven, and unpacks how deeply held beliefs about ambition, money and "a useful job" get absorbed in childhood, long before we're old enough to question them.

Mel walks through the three versions of success she's lived through: the checklist she grew up with, the bigger "adulting" checklist she swapped it for, and the intentional version she lives by now. Along the way she introduces three simple NLP tools, that help you catch when you're chasing someone else's idea of success rather than your own, and invites you to try free tools to get clear on your own version of success.

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