Episode Description
What if five words could completely change how you fight?
You know that moment — you've said something sharp in the heat of an argument, and at 2am you're staring at the ceiling wondering... did I actually mean that? This episode dives into one of the most common (and costly) patterns Katie sees in long-term relationships: when our feelings stop being information and start getting treated as facts.
Katie shares the story of Sarah and Mark — a couple whose dynamic completely shifted after one decade of one partner traveling and one holding everything together. When they finally landed in the same house full-time, the arguments didn't look like love anymore. And the word "hate" was being thrown around a lot.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why your brain literally goes offline during a heated argument (and what that means for what comes out of your mouth)
- The crucial difference between loving someone and liking them in any given moment
- Five words that interrupted years of destructive conflict for Sarah and Mark — and can do the same for you
- A simple homework assignment you can try this week, no therapist required
Whether you're the feeler who goes from zero to 100 or the thinker who shuts down completely, this episode is going to hand you something real.
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