Why do so many couples feel stuck repeating the same painful patterns — even after therapy, books, and years of personal growth?

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In this conversation with Thais Gibson, founder of the Personal Development School, EJ and Tarah explore why insight alone doesn’t lead to lasting change in relationships. If you’ve ever thought “I know better, so why do I keep reacting the same way?” this episode helps explain what’s really happening beneath the surface.

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Together, they unpack how attachment patterns, nervous system responses, and emotional conditioning keep couples locked in familiar cycles of conflict, shutdown, or disconnection — and why trying harder, being more aware, or having good intentions often isn’t enough to break those patterns.

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In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why understanding your patterns doesn’t automatically change them
• How attachment wounds get activated in close relationships
• Why shame and self-blame keep couples stuck
• What actually helps create lasting relational shifts
• How emotional safety supports real change over time

This episode is especially helpful if you:

• Feel stuck in the same relationship dynamics
• Have done personal growth work but still feel triggered
• Wonder why your relationship feels harder than it “should”
• Want a compassionate, practical understanding of attachment and change

This is a grounding, validating conversation for couples who are tired of trying harder — and ready to understand what actually helps patterns soften and connection grow.

🔗 Learn More About Thais Gibson

• Personal Development School: https://www.personaldevelopmentschool.com
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thaisgibson

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