Your feelings are real — but they're not reality. That's the line that reframed how I do recovery, and it's the heart of today's Borrowed Wisdom.

I'm reading the highlight quotes from one of my favourite speaker tapes — Don M. on emotional sobriety — and adding my own lived-experience take. This one's about the crux of staying sober long-term: your feelings are valid, but they don't get to run the show.

We get into:

• Creating space between a feeling and an action — including a near-miss with a Tesla in a downtown Toronto bike lane, and the one thing recovery gave me: the pause
• The "illness of superlatives" and all-or-nothing thinking
• Reframing addiction from the worst thing that ever happened to me into the greatest gift
• Why "first thought wrong" keeps showing up disguised as common sense
• Not buying into resentment, and letting go of outcomes — trusting the author when I can't see the plan
• Recovery as a doing program, not a thinking one
• Rock bottom as a decision I've got a world of control over
• The one contrary action that separates the person who stays sober from the one who can't

If you're struggling today, I hope one line in here lands for you. You're not as stuck as your brain is telling you.

Peer perspective only — this isn't medical or clinical advice. If you're in crisis or need real help, reach out to someone you trust or a local support service.

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