E259: Sex and Intimacy After Kids: What Actually Works (From Parents Who've Figured It Out)

May 7
1 hr

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Episode Description

This one's for the sleep-deprived, the time-starved, the diaper-changing, homework-helping parents who still want to feel like a couple.


We see you. And we asked our community to help us show up for you in a big way.


In this episode, we're reading real responses from real parents — practical, doable ideas and a little tough love for making intimacy a priority again, even with kids in the house.


💛 In this episode, you'll hear:

  • Why we talk about parenting and intimacy even though we don't have kids ourselves

  • The #1 thing our parent community says completely changed their sex life (hint: it involves your calendar)

  • How to stop resentment before it builds

  • The small acts of emotional intimacy that go a long way

  • The little rituals making a real difference

  • Timing hacks that real parents swear by

  • The privacy solutions couples are using so they can actually relax

  • Mindset shifts that unstick couples from dry spells and all-or-nothing thinking

  • A powerful DM from a parent in our community that will challenge you, encourage you, and maybe make you tear up a little

Your relationship isn't something you'll get back to someday. This episode is the reminder you needed to start now.

Want a simple, fun way to keep the spark alive every single month?

The Spark is our $9/month subscription packed with fresh intimacy prompts, date ideas, and conversation starters — designed for real couples with real lives.

👉🏻 Check out The Spark here: https://vmtherapy.com/spark


Talking to your kids about sex and relationships doesn't have to be awkward — but it does have to happen.

Beyond The Birds & The Bees is our guide to having honest, age-appropriate conversations with your kids about bodies, relationships, and healthy sexuality — so they hear it from you first.

  • Practical scripts and conversation starters for every age

  • Takes the guesswork (and the cringe) out of the talk

  • Helps you raise kids with healthy attitudes about sex and relationships

  • Because the best gift you can give your kids is parents who aren't afraid to go there

👉🏻 Check out Beyond The Birds & The Bees here: http://vmtherapy.com/kids


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