Learning to Let Life Be Messy (Without Giving Up on Yourself)

February 4
47 mins

Episode Description

Motherhood. Neurodivergence. Work-from-home life. Burnout.
 And that uncomfortable in-between season where nothing is falling apart… but nothing feels settled either.

This episode is a deep exhale for anyone living in the messy middle.

Megs sits down with Candice Janae — therapist, coach, writer, and fellow human navigating real life — to talk about what happens when life shifts, routines stop working, and you’re trying to stay aligned without burning yourself out.

Together, they unpack how to:

  • Adapt when life changes (again)
  • Build systems that actually work for neurodivergent brains
  • Let go of guilt, perfection, and “this should be easier by now”
  • Communicate needs and share the load at home
  • Choose rhythms and rituals over rigid routines

This conversation is grounding, honest, and full of “oh wow, that’s me” moments — especially if you’re juggling caregiving, creativity, and a career.

⏱️ Episode Breakdown (timestamps adjusted +39 seconds)

02:22 — What “The Messy Middle” Actually Means
03:46 — When Life Happens: Navigating Unexpected Changes
05:31 — Coping with the Unknown (without spiraling)
13:02 — Aligning Your Values with Your Real-Life Needs
19:19 — Creating Systems That Work For You (Not Against You)
24:47 — Letting Go, Grief, and Embracing Change
25:04 — Holiday Decorations, Traditions, and Letting Them Evolve
26:07 — Adapting to New Living Spaces
27:08 — Creative, Neurodivergent-Friendly Organizing Solutions
30:55 — Progress in the Messy Middle (Even When It’s Not Pretty)
37:13 — Why Rhythms & Rituals Beat Routines Every Time
42:54 — Sharing the Load: Communication & Balance with Partners

🌊 Guest Spotlight: Candice Janae

Candice is a private practice therapist by day and, in the online space, a burnout & balance coach for indie, self-employed, and freelance moms.

She works closely with chronically ill and neurodivergent moms who are trying to do all the things — without losing themselves in the process.

She’s also:

  • An author of both fiction and nonfiction
  • A water-lover (oceans, lakes, give her all of it)
  • An introvert constantly navigating the push-pull between community and quiet

Candice brings a grounded, compassionate lens to burnout, balance, and identity — especially for moms who are exhausted from holding everything together.

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