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#248: How to Cope With My Ex Being Happy in a New Relationship (Ask Steph)

April 9
11 mins

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Episode Description

In today’s Ask Steph episode, we’re talking about how to cope when your ex seems to have moved on soon after your break-up — and is now in a new relationship that appears to be working.

This can be an incredibly painful experience, especially if you’re still grieving the relationship. It often brings up comparison, self-doubt, and questions like “Was I the problem?”

In this episode, I unpack why this situation feels so triggering, what’s actually going on beneath the surface, and how to shift out of rumination and back into your own power.

We cover:

  • Why seeing your ex move on can feel like “salt in the wound”
  • The different ways anxious and avoidant people process breakups
  • Why your ex’s behaviour isn’t a reflection of your worth
  • The illusion of their new relationship “working”
  • How new relationship energy can mask underlying patterns
  • The impact of comparison, rumination, and self-doubt
  • Why focusing on your ex keeps you stuck
  • How to set boundaries and reclaim your energy

Resources

  • For free resources on break-ups and anxious attachment, click here.
  • Check out my break-up course Higher Love here


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