230. Are you betraying yourself to keep the peace? An honest look at the relationships you're outgrowing
Episode Description
Season 2.0 of the Not Too Sensitive Podcast is officially here, and Alissa is back after a much-needed break with a renewed vision for the show.
In this episode, Alissa shares what shifted during her time away. Then from there, the conversation turns to one of the most common (and painful) patterns Highly Sensitive People experience in relationships: betraying themselves in order to keep the peace.
Alissa breaks down how people-pleasing, over-giving, and self-silencing often stem from low self-worth and abandonment wounds, and why relationships that require you to abandon yourself were never sustainable to begin with.
This episode is an honest invitation to take ownership of your role in relationship dynamics and to step fully into the version of yourself who no longer self-abandons for approval or safety.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why Alissa took a break and what inspired Season 2.0 of the podcast
- How living as your future self changes what you attract and tolerate
- The subtle ways HSPs betray themselves to avoid conflict or abandonment
- Why low self-worth fuels people-pleasing and over-giving patterns
- What it means to “teach people how to treat you” (without self-blame)
- Why some relationships fall apart when you stop self-abandoning
- How choosing yourself becomes less painful than staying silent
- What reciprocal, aligned relationships actually require from you
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