Episode Description
Struggling to tell the difference between needs vs wants in non-monogamy?
If you’ve learned to be “low maintenance” and tolerate a lot, you might be minimizing your emotional needs without realizing it.
In this episode, we explore how trauma, people-pleasing, and polyamory culture can teach us to need less, and why you’re allowed to want more.
There’s no prize for needing less.
You’re not needy. You’re human.
What You’ll Learn
• Why “needs vs wants” is the wrong question to ask
• How childhood conditioning and trauma affect your ability to ask for more
• The hidden cost of calling yourself “low maintenance”
• How this shows up specifically in non-monogamy and polyamory
• Better questions to ask your nervous system instead
• How to stop disappearing in your relationships
• Why your desires deserve space too
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
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