The whole gang talked with Erin Moniz—Baylor University chaplain, Anglican deacon, and author of the excellent book Knowing and Being Known—about developing a Christian theology of intimacy. Erin’s approach to intimacy offers as a valuable critique for our culture’s obsession with romance and sex. Even more importantly, she offers a positive theological vision, exploring how friendships, family, and community relationships can become primary places where we are known, loved, and formed in Christ—with specific thoughts for queer/same-sex-attracted Side B Christians. We hope you’ll give this episode, and Erin’s book, a listen!

About Our Guest

Rev. Erin F. Moniz (DMin, Trinity School for Ministry) is a deacon in the Anglican Church in North America and Associate Chaplain and Director for Chapel at Baylor University, where she disciples emerging adults and journeys with them toward healthy, gospel-centered relationships. You can find her at erinfmoniz.com.

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Note: This episode uses the terms “Side A” and “Side B” as shorthand for specific Christian perspectives on gay/queer sexuality. If you’re new to the conversation, you might find it helpful to check out episode #3, where we talk through the four “sides”: ⁠#3 - A-B-Y-X | 4 Sides on SSA/Gay Sexuality⁠

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★ Timestamps

(00:00) #81 - Hope for All Our Intimate Relationships, with Erin Moniz

(03:11) Erin’s background, serving emerging adults, Side B connections

(07:32) “We lack a robust theology of intimacy”

(15:03) “I can live without sex, but I cannot live without intimacy”

(18:53) Romance idolatry leads to hypersexualization

(22:57) What’s the difference: “Romance” vs. “Intimacy”?

(28:22) When values conflict: autonomy vs. vulnerability

(33:29) How AI bots could shape our intimacy

(37:12) Can intimate relationships be “economic” also?

(47:03) Are queer Christians better at healthy relationships?

(52:36) Your advice to: “I’m falling in love with my friends”

(01:01:15) Encouragement: You were made for intimacy on purpose by God

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★ Links and References

Knowing and Being Known: Hope for All Our Intimate Relationships (IVP ): www.ivpress.com/knowing-and-being-known

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★ Credits || Creators and Hosts: David Frank, TJ Espinoza, Tyler Parker | Audio Engineer: Carl Swenson, carlswensonmusic.com | Podcast Manager: Elena F. ★

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