Episode Description
I had a brave Reiki Level One student ask the question that is on everyone's mind.
How long does it take to feel something? How long until you feel confident? How long until you feel like you actually know what you're doing?
In this episode, I talk about what it really looks like to learn Reiki, mediumship, or any intuitive skill over time, and why the early stages can feel so uncomfortable even when you're doing everything right. If you've ever wondered whether your progress is normal, this conversation is for you.
I share realistic timelines that I've seen again and again, both in my own development and while teaching others. Around three months is often when things start to make more sense and understanding begins to settle in. Between six and nine months, confidence usually starts to grow as practice becomes more familiar. And around a year to a year and a half is a realistic goal for feeling genuinely good at something, not because you're perfect, but because you've practiced enough to trust yourself.
We talk about how confidence doesn't suddenly appear. It grows through repetition. The more you practice, the faster you get there. And the feelings of doubt, uncertainty, and questioning yourself are things we all experience, even if it doesn't always look that way from the outside.
I also share why keeping notes as you practice can be one of the most helpful tools for building confidence. When you write things down, you begin to see your growth over time, even when it feels slow in the moment.
This episode is a reminder that feeling unsure is normal. It is not a sign that you are failing or doing something wrong. You are learning a new skill, and learning takes time.
Keep practicing until you feel confident, and trust that your confidence will grow along the way!
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