Elise, 17, appreciates that she’s growing up in a world that understands what it means to be nonbinary.

She just wishes people had an easier time understanding fluidity. Because sometimes Elise feels like a boy, and other times she feels like a girl. Sometimes these changes shift with the seasons.

In this episode, Elise explains how her fluidity affects her dating life – because some people who fall for her as a masculine person might be less interested if she becomes more feminine months later.

She also reveals she might be a chimera – meaning, as she sees it, she might literally be two people in one.  Elise and Meredith talk it through together.

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