If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’ll finally relax when my relationship is better, my house is cleaner, my body looks different, my career is farther along,” this conversation is for you and me both. As we step into the holiday season - a time that invites reflection, gratitude, and sometimes a little extra pressure - I’m revisiting this episode because the message is timeless. We’re talking about cultivating contentment in the life you actually have, not some upgraded future version of it, and how to feel more at peace inside yourself without giving up your dreams, your drive, or your big, beautiful goals.

We’ll look at the difference between quick hits of happiness and that steadier “all is well in my world” feeling, the paradox of being an ambitious human who also wants to enjoy today, and some very practical ways to take inventory of your life, question old beliefs about worth and achievement, and stop outsourcing your emotional climate to your circumstances. As you listen, I’d love for you to consider: What have you been making your happiness conditional on? And what might change if today, messy and imperfect as it is, actually counted as a good life?

Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Introduction to Contentment
04:24 The Pursuit of Happiness vs. Contentment
10:56 Understanding Contentment
20:36 The Paradox of Growth and Contentment
22:29 Taking Inventory for Contentment
29:17 Exploring Core Beliefs and Values
32:55 The Impact of Negative Thinking
37:10 Contentment and Happiness
40:37 The Illusion of Circumstantial Happiness
46:20 The Journey of Personal Growth
52:32 Finding Joy in the Process of Life

If you’re noticing how long you’ve been living in “when things are different, then I’ll be okay,” and you’d like a thoughtful partner while you practice something healthier, I’d love to connect with you. You can schedule a consultation with me or a member of my team; it’s a private, secure space where you can tell us what’s really been going on in your world and what you’re hoping will feel different. We’ll help you get matched with the right counselor or coach so you can feel more grounded, more understood, and more free to enjoy the life you’re in while you grow into what’s next. 💗

xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Growing Self