Episode Description
Do you find yourself living in a marriage full of unspoken tension? You’re polite and all, but there’s no honest sharing or compassion? In this final program of the series, Chip shares a tool that walks you step-by-step, through a communication process that’ll free you from the past, free you from the guilt, and free you from the history that’s holding your relationship hostage.
Three major reasons we have shame:
- A theological reason – we ALL have shame.
- Shame from things DONE to us.
- Shame of things that we DO.
Three natural responses:
- To HIDE.
- To NUMB the pain.
- To COMPENSATE.
John 21:1-19
Principles:
- Jesus MEETS us where we are.
- Jesus gently DEMANDS that we face the truth about ourselves.
- Jesus AFFIRMS our value and our worthiness by commissioning us to service.
Practical implications:
- You can’t forgive your mate until you have RECEIVED both forgiveness and restoration. -Ephesians 4:32
- EXPERIENCE God’s forgiveness and restoration.
- Freely GIVE what you have received.
Tools for transformation:
D – DEFINE the issue clearly.
E – ENTER the pain and hurt.
F – Ask for FORGIVENESS.
U – UNDERSTAND the process.
- Phase 1: Forgive
- Phase 2: Forgiving
- Phase 3: Forgiven
S – SET things right between you.
- Own your responsibility
- Confess: “I was wrong.”
- Ask: “Will you forgive me?”
- Answer: “Yes, I forgive you.”
E – ESTABLISH a specific game plan to move forward.
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