Kerri Mangis is a TEDx speaker, author, and spiritual guide who has spent more than 20 years as a seeker. She came on Lens of Hopefulness to talk about her book Embodying Soul: A Return to Wholeness, her forthcoming book The Essential Ingredient: Remaking Ourselves in Times of Crisis (August 25, 2026), and a philosophy of transformation rooted in alchemy, Jungian psychology, and hard-earned personal experience.

Self-Help Got It Wrong

Kerri opened by taking aim at the self-help industry’s most persistent failures — toxic positivity and the “fake it till you make it” approach to emotional life. She didn’t just critique it from a distance. She admitted she bought into it herself.

The alternative she offers is not another system of positive thinking. It’s embodiment — the idea that all of it, the anger, the shame, the fear, belongs to you and deserves acknowledgment.

“I am my soul, I am my ego, I am my anger, I am my shame and my fear, and all of that — if we acknowledge it and we learn to live with it — it doesn’t have power over us. It allows us to be in power.”

She extended that point to emotions specifically: “Our emotions aren’t out to sabotage us. They’re there to get our attention.” Even anger, which she named as her most difficult emotion, she treats as a messenger. She gives anger a pronoun — he — and said he “has a lot to teach me and is usually trying to get my attention to something that I’m not paying attention to.”

The Three Stages

Kerri’s next book, The Essential Ingredient, organizes her philosophy into a three-stage model of transformation: breakdown, reflection, and rebirth.

Breakdown is the stage where you question everything — the social contracts, the childhood conditioning, the beliefs handed down from parents and grandparents. Reflection is where you sit with those beliefs and ask whether they’ve helped you or hurt you, whether they once protected your heart but are now sheltering it. And rebirth is returning to the world transformed, carrying fewer of the old ways of thinking.

“Your greatest rebirths always came at the end of something that was hard.”

The model didn’t come from a textbook. It came from alchemy.

Alchemy in the Kitchen

During the pandemic, Kerri went to her local New Age bookstore and cleaned out their alchemy section. Then she went hands-on, practicing a related discipline called spagyrics — working with herbs to make tinctures using the same philosophical principles as alchemy. She was up at 4 a.m. mixing herbs, and she found in that physical process the same breakdown-pause-transformation arc she’d been observing in her own life.

From there she discovered that Carl Jung had drawn heavily from alchemical principles in his own work. Jung posed a question Kerri found essential: what happens if we allow people to break down, instead of constantly picking them back up right away?

She also shared three mantras she encountered across her yoga and spiritual studies — what’s here is elsewhere, what is not here is nowhere; as above, so below; and as within, so without — and traced them all back to alchemy’s central principle: all is one. “It’s one river,” she said, “lots of tributaries, lots of different directions, but it’s all the same truth.”

The Soul Has a Name

In 2014, Kerri attended a women’s retreat. One of the closing exercises was to write vows to your soul and read them aloud to the group. The retreat leader also suggested giving the soul a name.

Kerri chose Serene Voyager. “I liked the word serene because I like the idea of being serene on the inside,” she said. “And yet Voyager — my soul wants to travel, my soul wants to explore, doesn’t want to sit still.” She shortened it to Seri, which rhymed with Kerri, and kept the piece of paper with her vows on it.

She still uses that relationship as a counterweight to ego. When the metrics of publishing and podcasting start to wear on her — the subscriber counts, the views — it’s Seri that pushes back: “Yeah, but did you have fun?”

Heroes vs. Elders

Kerri’s TEDx talk, delivered last August, made the case that menopause is a rite of passage, not a medical inconvenience to be minimized. In the West, women are conditioned to hide it. Her argument was that this transition from the adult years — defined by work, family, and obligation — into a wiser stage of life should be honored, not suppressed.

That argument connects to a broader framework she writes about: the difference between heroes and elders. A hero is someone we look to out there, to save us. An elder is a community guide that everyone seeks counsel from, but who still holds people responsible for themselves.

“In the hero model, we outsource our power. In the elder model, we embody it.”

Grief Became Steadfastness

Kerri lost both of her parents in the fall and early winter of last year, one after another. She described them as soulmates — one not willing to be here without the other. As the oldest of three, she became the one others leaned on.

“Because of the practice and the work that I’ve done over the years, I was able to come into a position of… steadfastness, and presence, and clarity. I was able to be the bridge between my brothers when they were over-emotional. I was able to help ground them. I was able to be this presence for other people — because I’ve done my work.”

She was quick to add that she didn’t do it alone. She still works with a spiritual guide herself. “Nobody should do this alone.” She spoke at both funerals, and said she was proud of the words she found.

No Mud, No Lotus

Kerri addressed the manifestation industry directly, and without much softness. Dream boards, vision boards, affirmations — she tried all of it and walked away. Not because positivity is wrong, but because it’s incomplete.

“Nothing was as powerful as sitting with my own stuff. Not pretending it’s not there. Not pretending to be somebody different. Just living in the truth, in the mud.”

She borrowed the Buddhist expression — no mud, no lotus — and applied it to the manifestation world: “That manifestation work, it’s beautiful and it sounds good. But it’s all lotus, it’s no mud. You gotta have the mud.”

Where to Find Kerri

Website: kerrymangis.com — includes a transformation-stage quiz and a self-love quiz

Book (out now): Embodying Soul: A Return to Wholeness — available on Amazon and Kindle Unlimited

Book (August 25, 2026): The Essential Ingredient: Remaking Ourselves in Times of Crisis

Podcast: Awaken Your Power on Apple Podcasts (currently on hiatus through book launch)

Also on: Substack, Medium, and Instagram

Kerri Mangis was a guest on Lens of Hopefulness with John Passadino, available on YouTube, Substack, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, and Audible

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