Quiet disorganized attachment can make modern women feel invisible—shutting down out of fear of being “too much,” even when all they want is to be seen and loved.

In this episode, Dawn Dubelbeis opens up about the impact of childhood trauma and how her attachment style shaped her adult relationships. Alongside Adam, they unpack the path of how to build connection from a place of safety, not survival.

Topics Covered 
👉 How quiet disorganized attachment shows up in adult relationships
👉 Why women with this attachment style often feel invisible or “too much”
👉 The biological role of vasopressin and oxytocin in bonding
👉 The shutdown response: why emotions go numb and conflict feels unsafe
👉 The cost of not asking for help—and how to start
👉 Using emotional check-ins and clarity to build connection
👉 What secure men actually need from women (and why silence confuses them)
👉 How to create an emotionally safe, sustainable relationship
👉 Turning your nervous system from shutdown to connection
👉 Making your life inhospitable to avoidant partners—and safe for the right ones

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