Ep. 558 Why Being “Nice” Makes You Invisible to Women

Dec 23, 2025
29 mins

Episode Description

Most men think attraction is built by being polite, respectful, and safe.

But that’s exactly why so many women feel nothing, even when the guy checks all the boxes.

In this episode, Marni breaks down the biggest misunderstanding men have about attraction with Kurt who is a listener of the podcast. Why logic, effort, and approval seeking quietly kill chemistry before it ever starts. You’ll learn the difference between emotional attraction and emotional safety, why asking permission drains polarity, and how men accidentally skip the flirting phase without realizing it.

If you’ve ever heard “You’re a great guy, I just don’t feel the spark,” this episode explains what actually went wrong and how to stop being invisible without becoming arrogant, manipulative, or fake.

This is about emotional leadership, polarity, and creating attraction on purpose.


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