Episode Description
You can want a better life and still block it with your own hands, and the scariest part is how invisible it can feel. In this conversation on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, we sit down with therapist and author Pat Pearson to name the real engine behind self-sabotage and to replace shame with a clear, workable framework for change.
Pat shares how early pain pushed her to look inward, and how decades of helping clients revealed the same hidden structure across goals: people don’t rise to what they want, they rise to what they expect. She explains her concept of “deserve level,” an inner thermostat shaped by family messages, culture, and past experiences. When that setting is low, we unconsciously reject opportunity, pick partners we cannot trust, stall our health progress, or cap our income, not because we are lazy, but because success does not feel safe.
We get practical, too. Pat offers a simple self-sabotage test you can do on paper, and we talk about why resistance shows up right where the “wound” lives. If fear is the root, the path forward is learning to face it with honesty, updating the old loop in your head, and choosing a new thought you can actually live from.
If you’ve been stuck in repeating patterns, listen closely, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the tools to raise their deserve level and build a healthier mind and life.
Connect With Pat Pearson :
Website: patpearson.com
Book (Stop Self-Sabotage, 2nd edition): available on Amazon
Podcast: Stop Self-Sabotage with Pat Pearson, MSSW
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/patpearsonmssw
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