Intrusive thoughts after infidelity can feel overwhelming, consuming, and impossible to control. In this encore episode, I walk through what intrusive thoughts really are, why they happen after betrayal, and what we can actually do about them.

If you've ever gone from calm to a full emotional spiral in seconds because of a memory, a word, or a random reminder, you're not broken. You're responding to trauma. I explain the difference between the "upstairs brain" and the "basement brain," and how betrayal keeps us in survival mode longer than we realize.

Most importantly, I share practical steps to slow intrusive thoughts down, understand what they're signaling, and begin healing at a deeper level instead of just trying to push them away.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why intrusive thoughts feel so intense after infidelity
• How to regulate your nervous system in the moment
• Questions to ask yourself when a thought won't let go
• How to know if a thought needs processing or reassurance
• What it looks like to co-regulate safely with your partner

You don't have to live at the mercy of intrusive thoughts. There is something underneath them that can be healed. If this episode resonates with you, I'd love for you to reach out and let me know what landed.

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