Your subconscious mind is running 95% of your decisions. Your conscious mind, the part that’s setting goals, making resolutions, and telling itself to do better, is only working with the remaining 5%. That gap is why knowing what you should do is never enough.

Thais Gibson has spent over a decade building a framework that actually closes that gap. She is a counselor, founder of the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, and has worked with over 60,000 people through The Personal Development School. In this episode of Habits and Hustle, she breaks down why self-sabotage is not what we all think it is, how your attachment style is quietly running your relationships, and the exact process to rewire patterns you have been carrying since childhood.

This is one of those conversations that will make you look at your own behavior completely differently.

What's Discussed:

• (00:05) The real reason your conscious goals keep losing to your subconscious programming.

• (15:30) What your attachment style is actually telling you about your childhood.

• (29:00) The attachment combination most likely to end in a vicious cycle.

• (45:00) Why dating a secure person does not fix an insecure attachment.

• (58:00) That one belief that’s quietly destroying your ability to connect.

• (1:05:00) What limerence is and why people mistake it for love.

• (1:15:00) The five pillars to rewire your attachment style at a subconscious level.

• (1:20:00) Why affirmations do not work and what to do instead.

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  Find more from Jen Cohen: 

  Website: jennifercohen.com

  Instagram: @therealjencohen

  Books: jennifercohen.com/books

  Speaking: jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements

  
  

  Find more from Thais Gibson: 

  Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool

  YouTube: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool

  Podcast: The Thais Gibson Podcast

  Facebook: The Personal Development School

  TikTok: @thaisgibson  

  Book: The New Attachment Theory

  Attachment Style Quiz: attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/