Set Boundaries Without Guilt, Drama or Losing the People You Love | Spotlight Convo

February 26
1h 2m

Episode Description

Tired of saying yes when you mean no and feeling resentful later? In this powerful compilation episode, you’ll learn how to set healthy boundaries without guilt, conflict, or losing the people you care about.


If you’re exhausted from overgiving, overworking, people-pleasing, or overfunctioning, this conversation will feel deeply familiar. We explore why so many high-functioning adults struggle to communicate limits and how small, clear boundary shifts can radically change your relationships, work life, and inner peace.


Today’s episode features insights from therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, and psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole, author of Boundary Boss. Together, they unpack the psychology of boundaries, codependency, people-pleasing, and how to finally talk true and live free.


In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • A one-sentence boundary formula that prevents arguments and shuts down guilt spirals
  • The hidden secondary gain that keeps you stuck in overgiving and overfunctioning
  • The six dysfunctional boundary styles and how to identify your “boundary blueprint”
  • A simple way to set time boundaries at work without risking your job
  • Practical scripts you can use when someone asks intrusive questions or ignores your limits


If you’re ready to stop feeling unseen, stretched thin, or quietly resentful, press play and learn how to create the boundaries that make a good life possible.


Episode Transcript


You can find Nedra at: Website | Instagram


You can find Terri at: Website | Instagram | Discover Your Secondary Gain | The Terri Cole Show


Next week, be sure to tune in for my conversation with Gretchen Rubin about what actually happens when kids leave home and how that season reshapes identity, relationships, and purpose.


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