Episode Description
You probably have a condition before you'll book the trip, something that needs to be true first. But if you look back, a version of that condition has likely already been true. You met it, and then something else came up. The timing wasn't right, and then it was, and something else came up. There was always something.
This is what practising deferral looks like. Every time you defer, you're getting better at putting yourself last. And after a while, that feels natural. It looks responsible, from the inside and the outside. But the woman you're becoming while you practise it is the one who doesn't quite trust herself to choose. That accumulates. And it compounds.
The clarity and confidence you're waiting for don't come before the decision. They come after you've moved.
In this episode:
- Conditions that keep moving to stay out of reach
- Building evidence, for or against yourself
- The school bus in September
- Nine months without a plan, but moving
- Writing the trip as a decision
This episode is for you if:
- you've been wanting to take a solo trip and keep finding reasons to wait
- you're a woman over 40 who makes thoughtful, reliable decisions for other people all day and can't quite remember the last time you made one that was purely for yourself
- you're a solo female traveler or seriously thinking about becoming one
- you've been telling yourself you're being responsible by waiting, and some part of you suspects that framing is doing double duty as a reason to stay put.
Resources mentioned: - The Science of Well-Being: a free online course on happiness, with Laurie Santos
- Learning How to Learn: an online course on approaching new skills and subjects, with Barbara Oakley
About Freedom Looks Like This:
Freedom Looks Like This is a podcast for women over 40 who want to travel solo — or who already do, and want to go deeper. Host Damianne President explores self-trust, decision-making, and what it actually takes to stop waiting and start moving. New episodes every Wednesday. For solo female travelers, midlife women, and anyone who suspects that the real barrier isn't logistics.
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