One of the biggest myths we carry is that self-criticism is the price of success. As the pioneering researcher behind self-compassion, Dr. Kristin Neff has spent decades studying how people respond to failure, shame, stress, and setbacks. In this conversation, Kristin joins JoJo and Vanessa to explain why being kinder to yourself doesn't lower your standards, how self-compassion can improve performance, and why real strength comes from supporting yourself through life's hardest moments instead of tearing yourself down.

In This Episode, JoJo, Vanessa, and Dr. Kristin Discuss:

(00:00) Introduction

(01:55) Why Being Hard on Yourself Doesn't Work

(07:45) The Part of Self-Compassion Most People Miss

(14:48) The Mindset That Helps You Perform Better

(23:24) The Hidden Desire Behind Shame

(31:14) Self-Compassion Starts at Home

(36:23) The Power of Fierce Self-Compassion

(41:57) The Strongest Men Ask What They Need

(46:37) The 20-Second Practice That Changes Everything

(51:01) Why Your Worth Isn't Up for Debate

Dr. Kristin Neff is a pioneering researcher, professor at the University of Texas at Austin, and one of the world's leading experts on self-compassion. She is the bestselling author of Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion, and her work has helped millions develop healthier ways to navigate failure, stress, shame, and personal growth.

Resources Mentioned:

Dr. Kristin Neff's Book, Fierce Self-Compassion: How to Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Your Power, and Thrive – A Personal Development Guide for Women Seeking Balance and Motivation: https://www.amazon.com/dp/006299106X 

Dr. Kristin Neff's Book, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004JN1DBO 

Connect with Dr. Kristin:

Dr. Kristin’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristinneff 

Dr. Kristin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neffselfcompassion/ 

Dr. Kristin’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@NeffKristin 

Connect with JoJo:

JoJo’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joseph-jojo-simmons/   

JoJo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jojo_simmons/ 

For Good Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/forgoodpodcast/ 

3isfor Website: https://3isfor.com 

Connect with Vanessa:

Vanessa’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessajsimmons/ 

Vanessa’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vanessajsimmonsxo/

U4IA Now: https://www.instagram.com/u4ianow/ 

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