Ep. 374 - The Energetics of Surrender: Ego, Envy, and Following Joy
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How would it feel if you decided—just for a moment—to let the universe hold you and guide you?
Do you feel peace and release? Or anxiety and panic? If it’s the latter, you’re likely struggling with fear of letting go, being hyper-focused on outcomes, or needing to ground into safety. This episode is here to remind you that surrender may be your medicine.
In this round table discussion, Lacy, Jessica, and Janelle dive deep into one of the hardest but most transformative parts of manifestation: surrender. They unpack what surrender really means—beyond the vague “just let go”—and how it shows up in our bodies, our relationships, and our manifestation process. From identifying ego attachments and timelines, to navigating envy and resentment, to following joy pings as a portal to alignment, this episode is both expansive and grounding. If you’ve ever wondered how to release control, this conversation will change how you see surrender forever. It’s not about giving up. It’s about opening more space to dance with the universe.
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In This Episode We Talk About:
- Breaking down the etymology and deeper meaning of “surrender”
- The difference between surrendering and quitting/giving up
- How ego attachments create resistance in manifestation
- Over-controlling patterns: gripping, impatience, entitlement
- Moving from fight-or-flight into the “wise owl brain” through regulation
- The role of grief and ego death in true surrender
- How resentment and envy can block manifestation and magnetism
- The subtle ways denial masks itself as surrender
- Somatic cues: how the body reveals if you’ve truly let go
- Why envy often points to areas we haven’t given ourselves permission to have
- Joy pings as divine guidance—creative acts that restore magnetism
Mentioned In the Episode:
- Expanded x Ep. 371 - How to Reframe Jealousy and Step Into Your Power with Elise Loehnen
- Expanded x Ep. 370 - Rewriting Your Patterns: How to Handle Tests with Self-Worth
- Expanded x Ep. 318 - Speeding up Your Manifestations in the New Paradigm with Jenna Zoe
- Read Gabor Maté's book: When the Body Says No
- Ep. 216 - Dr. Gabor Maté on Trauma, Authenticity & Healing
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