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This episode includes discussion of child abuse and trauma.
Child abuse is one of the most difficult and uncomfortable topics to talk about, yet it affects far more people than we realise. Many survivors carry the impact quietly for years, sometimes decades, without fully understanding how deeply it has shaped their lives.
In this episode of Ella Podcasts, we explore the reality of childhood abuse and its long-term psychological effects. From fear, shame, and silence to the way trauma shapes relationships, self-worth, and behaviour in adulthood, this is an honest and deeply personal conversation. We also challenge common misconceptions about abuse, including why children often don’t speak up and why it can remain hidden in plain sight.
In this episode I’m joined by:
• Dr Jonathan Marshall, clinical psychologist and former professor
• Dr Nina Stevens, clinical psychologist specialising in childhood trauma and family systems
• Simon J Littlewood, sharing his personal experience of abuse
Takeaways:
• Child abuse can take many forms, including physical, emotional, sexual abuse and neglect
• Abuse is often carried out by someone the child knows, not a stranger
• Fear, shame, and confusion are key reasons children do not speak up
• Trauma can affect relationships, self-esteem, and behaviour well into adulthood
• Many survivors struggle with guilt and feelings of worthlessness
• Healing is possible at any stage of life through support, therapy, and connection
Timestamps:
0:00:07 Introduction and trigger warning
0:01:44 Types of abuse and misconceptions
0:03:12 Why children stay silent
0:12:04 Long-term impact and family dynamics
0:19:44 Male survivors and silence
0:30:21 Repetition of trauma in adult relationships
0:41:19 Therapy, recovery, and support
0:53:05 Final advice and message
Conclusion:
What happened to you was not your fault. Survivors are not broken, and they are not alone. While trauma can have lasting effects, it does not have to define the rest of your life.
If you or someone you know is struggling, reaching out to a therapist, support group, or trusted person can be the first step towards healing.
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