So, let’s dive right into the nitty-gritty of servant leadership, shall we? You know, it's all fun and games until you realize that a lack of accountability can turn those so-called “servant leaders” into untouchable demigods. We’re not here for a morality contest, folks; we’re all human, and that's the point. Today, we're breaking down the BE-COME framework—because, let’s face it, who doesn’t love a good acronym? It’s all about starting fresh, connecting with our people, and keeping each other in check, all wrapped up in love. Because remember, the Church doesn't need flawless leaders; it needs ones who can own their mess-ups and show up for one another. So, stick around, and let’s unpack how we can actually make accountability feel like a warm hug instead of a judgmental fist!

Servant leadership is one of the most quoted leadership models in the Church. But if servant leadership is so central to our theology, why do we keep watching leaders fall?

In this episode, we examine the dark side of servant leadership—not to tear down leaders, but to tell the truth so the Church can grow healthier.

Drawing from a recent discipleship gathering called People of Grace, insights from John Wesley’s class meetings, and the BE-COME discipleship framework taught by Sam Barber, this conversation explores why leadership without shared accountability eventually fails.

We look at patterns behind recent ministry collapses, the role of isolation in leadership failure, and how churches can recover healthier structures rooted in grace, community, and accountability.

Servant leadership works, but only when it is accountable.

KEY THEMES

• The difference between servant language and servant structure

• Why isolation is the most common soil for leadership failure

• John Wesley’s model of mutual accountability

• The BE-COME framework for discipleship

• How the early church practiced shared leadership

• Practical steps toward accountable leadership today

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES

Mark 10:42–45 — Whoever wants to be great must be servant

John 13:1–17 — Jesus washes the disciples’ feet

Matthew 28:18–20 — The Great Commission

Luke 22:24–27 — Leadership as service

Acts 2:42–47 — Shared life in the early church

Galatians 6:1–2 — Bear one another’s burdens

James 5:16 — Confess your sins to one another

Takeaways:

1. Wesley's concept of accountability in leadership isn't about control, it's about protection and growth.
2. The BE-COME framework emphasizes the importance of community and personal accountability in servant leadership.
3. Servant leadership without accountability can lead to disastrous outcomes, as seen in many high-profile ministry collapses.
4. We can't ignore the reality that isolation distorts leadership and makes it easier for blind spots to grow.
5. True accountability involves asking hard questions and having people who can challenge us without repercussions.
6. The church needs leaders who are known and accountable, not just those who appear humble on the surface.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

1. Dynamic Church Planting International
2. Gateway Church
3. IHOP Kansas City
4. Hillsong
5. The Meeting House
6. Sunday School Ministries International
7. SDMI

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