The Question That Sent Me Spiraling (And How I Stopped the Doom Loop)

February 23
33 mins

Episode Description

What happens when you start asking yourself the really big questions?

Questions like:

  • Who am I, really?
  • What am I actually doing here?
  • Did I mess this up?

Over the past few weeks, Ruth has been doing deep brand clarity work—trying to untangle 16 years of businesses, books, programs, pivots, and reinventions into one cohesive through-line.

Instead of clarity, it triggered a spiral.

A full-blown doom loop of second-guessing, regret, comparison, and wondering if all the pivots meant she’d somehow “screwed it all up.”

In this honest and vulnerable episode, Ruth shares:

  • What sent her spiraling
  • Why business doubts often mask deeper identity fears
  • The thought patterns that kept her stuck
  • The exact tool she used to pull herself out
  • And the powerful reframe that changed everything

If you’ve ever questioned your path, your progress, or your past decisions—this one is for you.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why brand clarity work can surface unexpected insecurity
  • The hidden danger of measuring yourself by the wrong scorecard
  • How “confused people don’t convert” applies to your life—not just your business
  • The difference between being scattered and being integrated
  • What a doom loop actually is—and how to interrupt it
  • How to use the Resistance Repair process to shift destructive thought patterns
  • Why redefining “winning” might change everything

Key Quotes:

  • “When business gets hard, that old scorecard creeps back in.”
  • “I’m not scattered. I’m integrated.”
  • “I get to choose how I show up today.”
  • “This is not the end of my story.”
  • “I teach systems. That’s what I’ve always done.”
  • “You can have the best system in the world, but if you can’t stick with it, it doesn’t matter.”

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